North Carolina voters went to the polls and passed Amendment One - a ban on gay marriage. Now I assume all the residents of that state can rest easy now. Their moral compass is pointed due north and all of society's problems have been solved. You've put those pesky homosexuals in their places and have effectively rid yourselves of the immoral ditch you were certainly bound to hit. Or did you?
As a casual observer from a distance, I've seen the hyperbole and melodrama being slung from both sides. One says the moral fabric of society is about to be ripped to shreds, while the other claims all sorts of ills will be bestowed on poor women and children.
Here's the bottom line. If you think that people engaging in homosexual acts and relationships is going to be our undoing, frankly you're a moron. Additionally, if you think a "ban" on that behavior and those relationships will solve your problem you are living in a dream world. Here is a little reality check for you - LGBT people are going to have the same relationship whether or not you approve of it. It doesn't matter what you say. It doesn't even matter what the Bible says. They are going to do what they are going to do regardless of your opinions. Your passing this law will only fuel their dissent. There will be lawsuits and petitions. Some elected officials will likely be targeted for recall. Basically, by passing this ban, you have guaranteed that North Carolina will pass a law ALLOWING gay marriage in the near future. You really don't know what you've just done, but they do, and they going to come after you with a vengeance.
Let me step outside this issue with an example. We homeschool our kids. That is a "lifestyle choice." It is a choice many people ridicule and offer unwelcome opinions on. It is a choice we are very satisfied with and nothing anyone else does or says will change that. As a matter of fact, the more dissent we hear, the stronger our conviction becomes. I DARE you to outlaw homeschooling. You can outlaw it, but that in no way means we will stop doing it. If you don't like our choice, screw you. Move along.
Here's where I have something to say to both sides.
To the LGBT community: I get where you are coming from. I know all you really want is equal protection under the law. I can't blame you for that, but I would suggest you do what you want to do and tell anyone that doesn't like it go jump in the creek. Why do you need the government to validate you? If we all would stand up to government we could make it irrelevant. Look, sadly there are groups of people that will NEVER accept you. Period. But you can't allow them to revoke your validation as a free individual. But if you engage in pissing contest, you're all going to get wet.
To the proponents of banning gay marriage: I'm assuming most of you are coming at this from a religious and moral stance. I am a Bible-believing follower of Christ. I take the Bible at its face value. But sorry, I'm not with you here. My faith, and my relationship with Christ, is an individual matter. It is between me and Him. No one else is involved. What my neighbor does in his or her marriage bed does NOT affect my salvation. Period. My support or opposition to a ban on any human behavior does NOT affect my salvation. Period. End of discussion.
Bans on human behavior simply do not work. Drug use, texting or talking on the phone while driving, gay marriage, or any other "immoral" or "bad" behaviors are done on an individual basis. All you have managed to do by passing this amendment is mobilize the fight against you. Mark my words, they will win. No one will benefit from this fight. No one.